Whens the last time you felt peaceful? The last time you weren’t constantly rushing to the next thing, you weren’t adding more to your list, all while trying to figure out how you could do even more?
When is the last time you sat down and rested and didn’t feel guilty about it? The last time you did something JUST for you, even if it wasn’t on your to do list? Even if it felt silly or frivolous?
You might be thinking that it’s been a few months, or even a few years. Or you may even think you’re not sure the last time you felt rested or peaceful.
No matter your answer, that’s okay. Nothing to be ashamed of here.
I want you to imagine for a few minutes what it would be like for you to slow down. To go at a pace where you feel like you aren’t constantly trying to catch your breath. A pace where you work from a place of rest, rather than rest as a reward for work.
Imagine how it would feel to confidently know that the full plate, the striving, and the feelings of inadequacy just aren’t true. That you were always enough, that striving isn’t the only way, and that when you thoughtfully say yes to things, what’s on your plate is completely doable without feeling burnt out.
In order to get to that place, consider some if not all of the following questions –
- What am I chasing?
- What am I trying to gain by always adding to my to do list?
- What am I avoiding by moving so quickly through life?
- What am I prioritizing that’s not actually my priority?
- Who am I comparing myself to when I try to keep this pace?
- What beliefs or soundtracks have led me here? What soundtracks do I need to rewrite?
- What isn’t serving me that I should consider quitting?
- What will matter in 5 years? What about 10 or 20?
Reflecting on these questions helps you get to the motivations behind your striving. It helps you identify the unhelpful beliefs that keep you there. By getting really honest with yourself you can start to peel away what doesn’t serve you and what keeps you from building the life you want.
If you get to this point and are still unsure you want to dig into these questions for yourself, what’s the worst that can happen? Whatever came to your mind, is it really worth your peace to let that stand in your way?